La Bella Figura Revisited & Ended

I honestly don’t know if a single soul still reads this blog. At one point, I had so many lovely readers, a few of whom I have been lucky enough to meet in person  (I’m talking to you, Phyllis) and count as real friends. Lately, my thoughts have been turning to style again so I thought I would end this blog with a final post.

You see, I recently realized that I have a style. I like it. I am satisfied with it.

I realized this when I recently brainstormed on how to raise some money needed for my writing. I realized that I am so utterly completely satisfied with my style that I don’t even think about it anymore. I just reach into my closet and pull out something and it all matches and it all makes me FEEL great.

I have finally realized it is how I FEEL in something that matters. As I mentioned, this big realization came when I started looking at selling some of the more (ridiculously) expensive items in my wardrobe to raise money for my writing project.

I realized that I outgrew the designer items, which I had coveted, saved and scrimped for, and now had. Specifically, my Givenchy Nightingale handbag, which is absurdly expensive in my book. I had an ephiphany: while I loved the way others looked carrying the bag, I didn’t like myself carrying it. It didn’t suit me. At all. Up for sale. Even though I am endlessly complimented on this bag, it just doesn’t SUIT ME. It will be terrific for someone else.

Then, I took a hard look at my Fiorentini + Baker eternity boots. Again, numerous compliments on these silly expensive boots. They make me feel like an action figure when I wear them, like I could kick ass any second. However, they are not that flattering to my style or my figure. In fact, for some reason when I have a choice of what boots to wear I inevitably pull on my much cheaper, but awesome Frye boots. Those SUIT me. Eternity boots – up for sale!

See, what I came to realize is that I LOVED the IDEA of those two items. They are exquisitely crafted, gorgeous, gorgeous, gorgeous, as art items. Not suited for my style. The handbag is the softest most gorgeous leather ever. Fine craftmanship. A work of art. Same with the boots. I could sit and look at them all day long. They are gorgeous. But they don’t suit me.

Gone. Both of them.

Instead, I feel like I have found a new, effortless chic style. One that screams nonchalance. One that always feels JUST right. One that feels complete even though it only hangs on 23 hangers.

Finally. I’ve achieved that feeling of effortless chic I’ve sought for so long. I finally am comfortable in my skin, as the French say (in French, however the heck you say that — I’m not going to bother looking it up right now.) This feeling has completely stripped me of the desire to shop or buy anything new. It is such a feeling of freedom. So, that’s where I am at and why I stopped blogging here. I think I will end this blog with these thoughts and some photos that have inspired me and my style, which summed up is all about jeans, straight leg or skinny, deep-cut tees, blazers, boots and large scarves. I also am crazy about bracelets and cuffs, long, messy hair and smudgy black eye makeup.

7 thoughts on “La Bella Figura Revisited & Ended”

  1. I just want to say that although I never read your Bella Figura book, I always enjoyed this blog. I liked your style posts and reading about how you carried your philosophy out in everything you did, cooking, eating, reading, movies, kids, etc. I think I’m around your age (45), maybe a bit older, and I am not quite where you are as far as honing my style but I feel I’ve made a lot of progress the last few years just by reading blogs like yours. So, I always found you inspiring. Good luck with the writing! Hope

  2. K,
    Wow! I came over because I wanted to get the URL for your other blog and instead found this wonderful post!!! Your blog has meant so much to me. Thru your journey, I began uncovering (and learning to make a priority) my own values-all by subtracting what wasn’t important. Although this was about labellafigura, in order to get to the essence of it-I had to simplify…a lot. Style-wise, I am *almost* where I want to be, and just this week I was thinking the same thing you expressed here: it matters most to me how I feel in my clothes. If you decide to republish your first book, please let me know as I would love to read how your opinions have evolved (now that you are where you want to be). BTW, I just received my diploma in the mail (a BS in LA), so now that that is done-I am moving on to my next long-held goal: writing (and hopefully, in time, publish what I write)! I shall miss “hearing” your voice on this topic, but I am so HAPPY to read where you are now. How awesome! TTYS!

  3. What a great last post! I have thoroughly enjoyed your blog from beginning to end. I really like reading about how you have found your style and know what works and you are no longer searching or buying. That is the ultimate place to be! I will miss your blog, but what it did for me was provide endless inspiration, especially on a lean closet and minimalism that will stay with me for a lifetime. You made me think for myself too. Thank you so much for that!

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